Friday, July 24, 2009

When a friend is in need...

When a friend is in need, don't put the burden on them to call you, just go. Just do something. I wrote a similar post in September about what to do when someone close to you loses a loved one. If a friend or family member is sick, going through a divorce, has lost everything to a fire, has lost their job, or has someone close to them who is sick or has died, there are two things you can do. First of all, write them a letter. We have lost the art of handwritten communication, and it means the world to your friends and family members. Most of us cherish handwritten sentiments.

Second of all, DO something. If you tell your friend, "Call and let me know if I can do anything," it puts the burden on THEM. Their load is already heavy. If you want to do something, just do it. Call and offer to take a child, to clean house, to deliver a meal, or to run an errand. If it is a very close friend, just GO. Go to his or her house or the hospital or funeral home and sit with him or her. Your presence means more than you know.

4 comments:

Imjustagirl said...

Thank you for the reminder this is very true and often times forgotten.

Gwennie said...

This is so true. I was one bed rest for four months with my first son, and no one offered/told us they would do something for us. I still am a little bitter. It's a good reminder for all.

Personalized Sketches and Sentiments said...

Great thoughts and so true.

In 2005, when our 14 yr old son was going through hospital stays for chemo treatments, we were very blessed to have so many jump in and help...even by visiting, praying, encouraging, making us laugh, communicating by phone, emails, cards, etc..

Blessings & Aloha!

Anonymous said...

You've done this for me many times - I most remember your showing up at my grandfather's funeral, just a few days (hours?) after giving birth, and with 4 other little ones at home...means more that you could ever know!