addendum

In re-reading my post about being there for friends and loved ones during a difficult time, I wanted to add one thing.  When you go to their house, you will be able to tell if it is best for you to stay or leave.  If they need helping getting things together, it may be best for you to stay.  If family members are showing up to discuss arrangements, etc., then you need to leave.  You will know what to do.  By showing up, you show how much you care & that's what they need most of all!!!