Saturday, May 16, 2009
Jon & Kate plus 8 minus 1
First of all, I am going to speak in generalizations. Please do not take offense to what I am saying or think that I think I am perfect. I am so far from perfect, it's not even funny!!! Women like to analyze, so during our car ride today, I analyzed this poor family to death. These are my thoughts, randomly organized, and you may completely disagree, which is your right!! In this little post, I am not saying women shouldn't work or that husbands shouldn't stay home with the children. Every family must decide what is right for their personal family. Some of my best friends homeschool, and some have round the clock nannies and don't work. I am somewhere in the middle, but that doesn't mean either of them are wrong! I am just sad to see this couple struggle, especially for all the world to see. So let's get to it....
Jon & Kate plus 8 have been in the news lately because of Jon's supposed infidelity. No matter what, Jon, the father of 2 sets of multiples, should not have been out at clubs at 2am with another woman. As a fellow parent of multiples, I questioned what happened to this couple. So, I bought a People Magazine today. And we all know you can trust everything you read in People, right? (ha ha) Nonetheless, it included an interview with Kate and you hear part of her side.
I am no psychologist, but the breakdown of their marriage seems pretty clear to me. First of all, there is no mention of faith. Personally I believe your marriage should be based on a common belief in Jesus as your Lord and Savior. DH & I try to love the Lord more than we love each other, and He helps us through each day and allows us to love one another as we should. We certainly have our share of struggles and are not perfect. Secondly, millions of viewers have seen Kate belittle Jon on national TV. If she will berate him for not using a coupon in front of a tv audience, what happens behind closed doors? Kate lacks respect for Jon. Wives, we must ENCOURAGE and BUILD up our husbands. It is sinful to belittle them, talk badly about them behind their backs, and to put them down. The Bible says, "Wives, respect your husbands." Kate has little respect for Jon.
Jon is a Mr. Mom. His role in the family is to take care of the children while Kate travels and does speaking engagements and book signings. Personally, I think this can confuse things when roles are completely reversed. I am not saying men shouldn't stay home with their children. Every family is different. However, men were made to hunt and gather. Women are natural nurturers. Yes, there are many wonderful fathers. I am married to one of the very best. However, D will be the first to tell you that it is not a natural fit for him to spend day after day alone with the children. Yes, he can do it. Of course he loves them. Men just are not made to be the SOLE nurturer of the family. If they were, they would have breasts that produce milk and hips for holding babies! I am NOT saying that Kate can't have a career and that she should not do her book signings and speaking engagements. That is not my decision to make. I have many friends who balance work and motherhood so well. . In the article, she calls herself the breadwinner and continually says it is her job to make money to provide for the family. There are many examples of families where the woman makes more money than the man and it is not a struggle. However, in THIS family, it seems to be a struggle. Kate doesn't respect Jon, so therefore, Jon does nothing to earn her respect. He doesn't show love to Kate, so she does nothing to entice him to love her. It's a terrible cycle.
Jon wants to escape so he goes out at night. Who was keeping the children at 2am while Kate was away on one of her book signings? And guess what? A younger woman was there waiting to show Jon respect, build him up, and make him feel wanted and needed again. Voila! A possible affair begins.
I hope that Jon & Kate will get some professional help to restore their marriage. Perhaps it's time for the cameras to move out so that they can heal. It is not normal to have your whole life documented in front of a tv audience. Sadly, the very thing that brought them fame and fortune in the first place is now driving them apart!! What are your thoughts?